My method
We get to the heart of the matter. Appreciative and compassionate, but effective. I show you how to address problems openly in order to understand and solve them.
Traditional couple therapy doesn’t suit you?
Traumatic experiences, a difficult childhood… You can tell me everything, but you don’t have to. I try to understand the big picture, but above all I work with the “here and now”. The cornerstone of my method is dealing with your own issues and difficulties.
I combine systemic questioning techniques with a differentiation-based approach and work with techniques from solution-focused short-term therapy. It is not enough just to understand complex situations: it is more helpful to observe what is already working well and use these insights for more difficult patterns in your relationship. If something doesn’t work despite a lot of effort – then it’s time to try something different and find a new way. Concrete action in small steps is essential.
What is different about this method?
We work within a clearly defined time frame. This automatically ensures that we work efficiently and in a solution-oriented way. Of course, you can continue to work with me even after the counselling package has been completed – this has been helpful for many couples.
Multilingual counselling is ensured: I will accompany you fluently in English, German and Spanish. A culturally sensitive and holistic approach is a matter of course for me.
How does such a process work?
In our first session together, I focus on getting an overview: where are you stuck as a couple? What are your wishes and goals? I adapt the counselling process to your individual needs, your situation and your family language.
My aim is to understand the dynamics in your relationship and get a holistic picture of your situation. You decide exactly which topics we deal with. You can trust that I will proceed respectfully and cautiously.
We will also work on very specific conflicts: We will analyse in detail:Who said or did something? What was the motive for it? What reaction did this person expect? What thoughts and feelings did these actions trigger? What do we want to achieve as a couple: and are these goals achieved by what we have been doing so far?
Together we analyse concrete situations and find out how you could react differently: we create options for action. The aim is to identify the actual problem and find solutions.
When can counselling be helpful?
- If things are somehow “no longer right” in the relationship: I help you to put your feelings into words. If you have doubts about whether you want to stay in the relationship at all or if you don’t yet know what exactly should change.
- If you’ve tried everything and are going round in circles: If you feel like you’re failing or stuck, then you’ve come to the right place! Crises in relationships are stressful, but completely normal. I will show you how you can get over them.
- If you are on the verge of throwing everything away: I will show you how you can act differently in emotionally complex situations (arguments, family meetings, etc.).
- If you constantly have to decide: Either I do what I want or I do what my partner wants. Together, we sharpen your focus on the essentials: What is it really about? We find a common thread.
- If you have nothing more to say to each other and live side by side instead of together: Put an end to endless discussions and lazy compromises – don’t waste any more time! I will surprise you with questions that will make you curious about each other again.
Important notes
I offer counselling in my practice or online.
I offer online and in person counselling.
My counselling does not replace psychotherapeutic or medical treatment. If necessary, I will be happy to put you in touch with a psychotherapist or doctor.
Would you like to find out more?
Arrange a free initial consultation.