How my experiences and insights can help you.
You’ve been worrying about one topic the whole time! If only it weren’t for the doubts!
But, who likes to talk about feelings?
Especially when we don’t know how the other person will react?
It takes trust for us to take the first step. To get to know me better, I’m going to tell you a bit about myself today. In this article, you’ll find out what I’m like and what makes me tick. And I share my most important insights with you.
Insight no. 1: There is no such thing as the perfect life plan.
You’re probably familiar with this: You have very clear ideas about how something should be, but somehow everything turns out differently than planned. Your life is turned upside down and you must adapt to the new circumstances.
– You are angry and ask yourself what you are doing wrong.
– You desperately try to restore “normality” by any means necessary.
– Ultimately, the situation does NOT change.
I know that well.
A scholarship in England, a house in the country, three children and a fixed monthly income – that was my plan😉. Many things turned out differently than expected: I live in a big city and left my secure job. My grade point average was too poor for England (but I learnt Spanish fluently and I think that’s cool) and I live separately from the father of my children.
What am I trying to tell you? I’m not perfect – and I don’t know any better than you do. Mistakes and flaws are part of being human. Things are not perfect. But that doesn’t mean that anything is “wrong”. Unpleasant feelings are pretty much the most normal thing in life. But nobody likes to talk about them.
The truth is: like you, I am a person whose life is sometimes upside down. But I learnt:
- If something goes differently than expected, new paths are created. “Mistakes” are allowed!
- There is not always a solution! Instead of frantically trying to change the situation, it helps to abandon old thought patterns
Stop going round in circles: Change your usual thought pattern!
In my early twenties, I started my journey into the wide world. I had my semester abroad in Santiago de Compostela in the bag. I thought that I would somehow manage with my knowledge of English. No way.
My first words in Spanish were “rental agreement”, “deposit” and “heating”.
After a day of desperate attempts to get by, it slowly dawned on me: without Spanish, I have no chance here. I had no idea how I was going to manage this situation, I was completely desperate. So back home? I couldn’t get any further without support. My goal was very clear: I wanted to be able to communicate as quickly as possible so that I could stand on my own two feet.
I will do what is necessary to achieve this.
That took a lot of energy out of me. I’d like to tell you the three most important things I learnt during my first few days in Spain:
- It takes a clear decision to do!
- I am the protagonist of my life and take full responsibility for my (non-)actions.
- I accept help and support because otherwise I won’t get anywhere.
Start with your goal and then rewind! Who and what supports you on your way?
A short time later, I met the father of my children. And then came many years of learning…on all levels. The phase of falling in love. Long-distance relationship. Deciding where we wanted to live. Full of joy and optimism, we got married and tried to make a home for ourselves. I gained my first professional experience and became a mum. With all the ups and downs. We lived as a family in Austria and in Spain.
During the economic crisis, there were many doubts, fears and tears. Do you know how deeply disappointing it is, when things don’t work out the way you had hoped? When you put so much enthusiasm and joy into a dream and then you must give it up? At some point, I realized that something had to change. It needed a radical step and a fresh start.
Every day you have the chance to make a new start, to change something.
Insight no. 2: Change begins with a feeling
Even today, I ask myself again and again:
- How can I make the best of a situation?
- What decisions do I need to make?
- Change starts with a feeling, not a thought.
- You need people who understand what you are going through.
What is your feeling? Take note, recognise the signals and set yourself realisable goals.
Insight no. 3: Have courage and take responsibility – why this is sometimes difficult
Do you recognise this? The limiting patterns and obstructive beliefs that prevent you from starting something new and developing your true self?
We moved back to Austria and I trained as a life and social worker. And finally, a few years later, I set up my own practice. Without an outside perspective, I would have gone round in circles forever. What do I do next, what are the next steps? I got support to take the next steps. And I still do that every day.
Here are the next three insights I want to share with you:
- Sometimes it takes people who have the courage to say things very clearly.
- It helps to accept impulses and support.
- I am solely responsible for implementing my decision.
Now to you:
What do you want to let go of, change, restart?
I’m curious to hear what you want to tell me about your life journey! There is no such thing as the perfect life, but it is your responsibility to behave the way you want to behave. Are you unsure how this can work? Do you lack the courage to go it alone? Then you’ve come to the right place!
You know that something has to change—but you still lack the courage to take the first step?
Then seize this moment.
Book your free consultation now and find out how you can break old patterns and follow your path more clearly.
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