{"id":6426,"date":"2026-05-14T19:09:57","date_gmt":"2026-05-14T19:09:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/happycouples.at\/beitrag\/interkulturelle-erziehung\/"},"modified":"2026-09-29T23:23:55","modified_gmt":"2026-09-29T23:23:55","slug":"family-culture","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/happycouples.at\/en\/beitrag\/family-culture\/","title":{"rendered":"Family Culture"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; custom_padding_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; admin_label=&#8221;Header&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.2&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; background_color=&#8221;#1A5755&#8243; background_image=&#8221;https:\/\/happycouples.at\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/Blog-Linie-4.svg&#8221; width=&#8221;100%&#8221; max_width=&#8221;100%&#8221; module_alignment=&#8221;center&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;||||false|false&#8221; custom_padding_tablet=&#8221;||||false|false&#8221; custom_padding_phone=&#8221;||20px||false|false&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row column_structure=&#8221;2_3,1_3&#8243; custom_padding_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.2&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; width=&#8221;100%&#8221; max_width=&#8221;1926px&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;0px||0px||false|false&#8221; custom_padding_tablet=&#8221;70px||||false|false&#8221; custom_padding_phone=&#8221;46px||0px||false|false&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;2_3&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;|||5vw|false|false&#8221; custom_padding_tablet=&#8221;|5vw||5vw|false|false&#8221; custom_padding_phone=&#8221;|5vw||5vw|false|false&#8221; custom_padding_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][dsm_breadcrumbs items_bottom=&#8221;0px&#8221; separator_bottom=&#8221;12px&#8221; current_bottom=&#8221;0px&#8221; admin_label=&#8221;Breadcrumbs&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.2&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; items_font_size=&#8221;13px&#8221; home_icon_font_size=&#8221;14px&#8221; separators_text_color=&#8221;#F0ECEC&#8221; separators_font_size=&#8221;13px&#8221; current_text_color=&#8221;#F0ECEC&#8221; current_font_size=&#8221;13px&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;||||false|false&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;||0px||false|false&#8221; custom_css_main_element=&#8221;margin-bottom: 20px !important;&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/dsm_breadcrumbs][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Beitragstitel (H1) &#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_text_color=&#8221;#F0ECEC&#8221; header_text_color=&#8221;#F0ECEC&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;||10px||false|false&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;||||false|false&#8221; header_font_size_tablet=&#8221;40px&#8221; header_font_size_phone=&#8221;32px&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h1>How to Build Your Own Family Culture: Raising Kids Between Two Cultures<\/h1>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Text&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_text_color=&#8221;#F0ECEC&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;20px&#8221; text_line_height=&#8221;1.5em&#8221; header_3_text_color=&#8221;#F0ECEC&#8221; text_font_size_tablet=&#8221;20px&#8221; text_font_size_phone=&#8221;18px&#8221; text_font_size_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; custom_css_main_element=&#8221;line-height: 1.6em !important;&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p>Two cultures, two languages, two sets of values \u2013 and your children right in the middle. How do you find your own thread as an intercultural family without losing yourself in the process?<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_3&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/happycouples.at\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/09\/Schmetterling.svg&#8221; alt=&#8221;Interkulturelle Erziehung&#8221; title_text=&#8221;Interkulturelle Erziehung&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; admin_label=&#8221;Inhalt&#8221; module_class=&#8221;contentbereich&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.2&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; background_color=&#8221;RGBA(255,255,255,0)&#8221; width=&#8221;100%&#8221; max_width=&#8221;100%&#8221; module_alignment=&#8221;center&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row column_structure=&#8221;3_4,1_4&#8243; make_equal=&#8221;on&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; width=&#8221;100%&#8221; max_width=&#8221;1926px&#8221; custom_margin_tablet=&#8221;||||false|false&#8221; custom_margin_phone=&#8221;||||false|false&#8221; custom_margin_last_edited=&#8221;off|desktop&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;0px||||false|false&#8221; custom_css_main_element=&#8221;align-self: center;&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;3_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;|5vw||5vw|false|true&#8221; custom_padding_tablet=&#8221;|5vw||5vw|false|false&#8221; custom_padding_phone=&#8221;|5vw||5vw|false|false&#8221; custom_padding_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; custom_css_main_element=&#8221;align-self: center;&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Inhaltsverzeichnis&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h2>Table of Contents<\/h2>\n<p class=\"jqDnR\"><a href=\"#teil-1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When two worlds become parents<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"#teil-2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The pressure from outside \u2013 and from within<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"#teil-3\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Building your own family culture: it is possible<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"#teil-4\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Multilingualism as a gift, not a burden<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"#teil-5\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When parenting styles clash<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"#teil-6\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What actually helps \u2013 practical suggestions<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"#teil-7\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Key Takeaways<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;#teil-1 H2&#8243; module_id=&#8221;teil-1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<div id=\"idTextPanel\" class=\"jqDnR\">\n<h2>When two worlds become parents<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;#teil-1 Text&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<div id=\"idTextPanel\" class=\"jqDnR\">\n<p>You know that moment when your child says or does something \u2013 and you have no idea whether to laugh or cry.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe they just picked up a gesture from your mother that used to drive you up the wall. Or they switch languages mid-sentence because the word they need only exists in one of them. Or they ask you, completely seriously, why your family celebrates things differently from everyone else in their class.<\/p>\n<p>Raising children in an intercultural family means more than just parenting. You and your partner are building an entirely new world together \u2013 with its own values, its own rituals, its own language. That is something remarkable. And sometimes, honestly, it is exhausting.<\/p>\n<p>I am a mother of two daughters who grew up in an intercultural family. I know this reality not only from my counselling practice but from the very concrete everyday life of school homework, grandparent visits, and questions like: &#8220;Mum, am I Austrian or Spanish?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>There is no perfect answer to that question. But there is something better: a family that knows who it is.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_blurb title=&#8221;Intercultural parenting means navigating different languages, values, and traditions every day while creating something unique as a family.&#8221; use_icon=&#8221;on&#8221; font_icon=&#8221;&#xe007;||divi||400&#8243; icon_color=&#8221;#3A9E7E&#8221; icon_placement=&#8221;left&#8221; image_icon_width=&#8221;190%&#8221; content_max_width=&#8221;100%&#8221; icon_placement_tablet=&#8221;left&#8221; icon_placement_phone=&#8221;top&#8221; icon_placement_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; admin_label=&#8221;gr\u00fcn&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; header_text_color=&#8221;#1A5755&#8243; header_font_size=&#8221;20px&#8221; background_color=&#8221;rgba(58,158,126,0.2)&#8221; image_icon_custom_margin=&#8221;|||20px|false|false&#8221; image_icon_custom_margin_tablet=&#8221;|||20px|false|false&#8221; image_icon_custom_margin_phone=&#8221;|||0px|false|false&#8221; image_icon_custom_margin_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;||||false|false&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;20px|30px|16px||false|false&#8221; custom_padding_tablet=&#8221;|||30px|false|false&#8221; custom_padding_phone=&#8221;20px|30px|16px|30px|false|false&#8221; custom_padding_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; text_orientation_tablet=&#8221;left&#8221; text_orientation_phone=&#8221;center&#8221; text_orientation_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; border_color_right=&#8221;#3A9E7E&#8221; border_width_left=&#8221;3px&#8221; border_color_left=&#8221;#3A9E7E&#8221; border_width_right_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; border_width_right_phone=&#8221;3px&#8221; border_width_right_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_blurb][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;#teil-2 H2&#8243; module_id=&#8221;teil-2&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<div id=\"idTextPanel\" class=\"jqDnR\">\n<h2>The pressure from outside \u2013 and from within<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;#teil-2 Text&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p>Before we get to solutions, I want to stay for a moment with something many of you carry but rarely say out loud.<\/p>\n<p>It is a lot.<\/p>\n<p>The grandparents on one side want the children to finally speak the language &#8220;properly&#8221;. The ones on the other side cannot understand why you do not visit more often. Teachers ask whether &#8220;another language is spoken at home&#8221; \u2013 with a tone that is not always entirely kind.<\/p>\n<p>And then there are the two of you: parents with different ideas about what raising a child should look like. What counts as discipline? What is warm and what is too permissive? Where do you draw the line?<\/p>\n<p>These questions are hard enough in any partnership. In an intercultural relationship, they come with an extra layer \u2013 because often you are not just disagreeing as parents, but as representatives of two entirely different worldviews. What felt completely normal in your family of origin may feel strange or even wrong to your partner, and vice versa.<\/p>\n<p>That is not a failure. That is the reality of building something together that has never existed before.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_blurb title=&#8221;Expectations from others and different parenting styles can create pressure \u2013 but conflicts in intercultural families are not failure, they are part of reality. &#8221; use_icon=&#8221;on&#8221; font_icon=&#8221;&#xe007;||divi||400&#8243; icon_color=&#8221;#3A9E7E&#8221; icon_placement=&#8221;left&#8221; image_icon_width=&#8221;190%&#8221; content_max_width=&#8221;100%&#8221; icon_placement_tablet=&#8221;left&#8221; icon_placement_phone=&#8221;top&#8221; icon_placement_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; admin_label=&#8221;gr\u00fcn&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; header_text_color=&#8221;#1A5755&#8243; header_font_size=&#8221;20px&#8221; background_color=&#8221;rgba(58,158,126,0.2)&#8221; image_icon_custom_margin=&#8221;|||20px|false|false&#8221; image_icon_custom_margin_tablet=&#8221;|||20px|false|false&#8221; image_icon_custom_margin_phone=&#8221;|||0px|false|false&#8221; image_icon_custom_margin_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;||||false|false&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;20px|30px|16px||false|false&#8221; custom_padding_tablet=&#8221;|||30px|false|false&#8221; custom_padding_phone=&#8221;20px|30px|16px|30px|false|false&#8221; custom_padding_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; text_orientation_tablet=&#8221;left&#8221; text_orientation_phone=&#8221;center&#8221; text_orientation_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; border_color_right=&#8221;#3A9E7E&#8221; border_width_left=&#8221;3px&#8221; border_color_left=&#8221;#3A9E7E&#8221; border_width_right_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; border_width_right_phone=&#8221;3px&#8221; border_width_right_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_blurb][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;#teil-3 H2&#8243; module_id=&#8221;teil-3&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<div id=\"idTextPanel\" class=\"jqDnR\">\n<h2>Building your own family culture: it is possible<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;#teil-3 Text&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p>Here is the good news: there is no master plan for intercultural families. And that is precisely your advantage.<\/p>\n<p>You do not have to choose between being &#8220;more Austrian&#8221; or &#8220;more Colombian&#8221; or &#8220;more Japanese&#8221;. You are allowed to be something third \u2013 something entirely your own, something that belongs only to your family.<\/p>\n<p>In my work with intercultural couples and families, I have noticed that the deepest pain rarely comes from the differences themselves. It comes from fighting against them. The moment couples stop experiencing the other culture as a threat and start seeing it as a resource, something shifts. The difference becomes a strength.<\/p>\n<p><b>A practical suggestion:<\/b> Set aside some time together \u2013 ideally without children, without distractions \u2013 and answer these questions:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li aria-level=\"1\">Which three values from your own culture of origin do you absolutely want to pass on to your children?<\/li>\n<li aria-level=\"1\">Which three values from your partner&#8217;s culture do you quietly admire?<\/li>\n<li aria-level=\"1\">What kind of family do you want to be \u2013 entirely independent of what grandparents, teachers, or society expects?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Write it down. That is the beginning of your own family culture.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_blurb title=&#8221;Intercultural families do not have to choose one culture! Their greatest strength often comes from building something unique together. &#8221; use_icon=&#8221;on&#8221; font_icon=&#8221;&#xe007;||divi||400&#8243; icon_color=&#8221;#3A9E7E&#8221; icon_placement=&#8221;left&#8221; image_icon_width=&#8221;190%&#8221; content_max_width=&#8221;100%&#8221; icon_placement_tablet=&#8221;left&#8221; icon_placement_phone=&#8221;top&#8221; icon_placement_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; admin_label=&#8221;gr\u00fcn&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; header_text_color=&#8221;#1A5755&#8243; header_font_size=&#8221;20px&#8221; background_color=&#8221;rgba(58,158,126,0.2)&#8221; image_icon_custom_margin=&#8221;|||20px|false|false&#8221; image_icon_custom_margin_tablet=&#8221;|||20px|false|false&#8221; image_icon_custom_margin_phone=&#8221;|||0px|false|false&#8221; image_icon_custom_margin_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;||||false|false&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;20px|30px|16px||false|false&#8221; custom_padding_tablet=&#8221;|||30px|false|false&#8221; custom_padding_phone=&#8221;20px|30px|16px|30px|false|false&#8221; custom_padding_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; text_orientation_tablet=&#8221;left&#8221; text_orientation_phone=&#8221;center&#8221; text_orientation_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; border_color_right=&#8221;#3A9E7E&#8221; border_width_left=&#8221;3px&#8221; border_color_left=&#8221;#3A9E7E&#8221; border_width_right_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; border_width_right_phone=&#8221;3px&#8221; border_width_right_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_blurb][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;#teil-4 H2&#8243; module_id=&#8221;teil-4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<div id=\"idTextPanel\" class=\"jqDnR\">\n<h2>Multilingualism as a gift, not a burden<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;#teil-4 Text&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.6&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<div id=\"idTextPanel\" class=\"jqDnR\">\n<p>&#8220;Children absorb languages like a sponge&#8221; \u2013 you have probably heard that before. It is true. But it does not mean it is always easy.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe your child mixes languages freely and without warning. Maybe they refuse to speak one parent&#8217;s language \u2013 simply because they do not feel like it that day. Maybe comments from others make you anxious: &#8220;Isn&#8217;t that confusing for the child?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>From everything I have seen in my practice and experienced in my own family: children who grow up multilingual are not confused. They are flexible. They learn early that there are multiple ways to say the same thing, and that communication means adapting. That is not a weakness \u2013 it is a skill that will serve them for life.<\/p>\n<p>What genuinely helps is consistency in your approach, combined with ease in the day-to-day. Choose a principle that works for your family \u2013 for example, one parent, one language \u2013 and hold to it as best you can. But do not make yourself anxious when it does not work out perfectly. Language is not a performance.<\/p>\n<p><b>One concrete idea:<\/b> Introduce a family ritual that carries a specific language. Every Sunday breakfast happens in Spanish. Every Wednesday evening, one parent tells a story in English. Not as a duty, but as something to look forward to \u2013 a moment that belongs to your family.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_blurb title=&#8221;Multilingualism is not a burden but a valuable strength! 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