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Most of us strive for equality and harmonious relationships. However, intercultural relationships are often a tough negotiation – who decides what happens or not? Find out here why it is important to face up to the truth.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n [\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=”1_3″ _builder_version=”4.27.0″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ admin_label=”Inhalt” module_class=”contentbereich” _builder_version=”4.27.2″ _module_preset=”default” background_color=”RGBA(255,255,255,0)” width=”100%” max_width=”100%” module_alignment=”center” collapsed=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_row column_structure=”3_4,1_4″ make_equal=”on” _builder_version=”4.27.0″ _module_preset=”default” width=”100%” max_width=”1926px” custom_margin_tablet=”||||false|false” custom_margin_phone=”||||false|false” custom_margin_last_edited=”off|desktop” custom_padding=”0px||||false|false” custom_css_main_element=”align-self: center;” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_column type=”3_4″ _builder_version=”4.27.0″ _module_preset=”default” custom_padding=”|5vw||5vw|false|true” custom_padding_tablet=”|5vw||5vw|false|false” custom_padding_phone=”|5vw||5vw|false|false” custom_padding_last_edited=”on|phone” custom_css_main_element=”align-self: center;” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_text admin_label=”Intro” _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n Most of us want relationships based on equality. Closeness, connection, and a shared life without losing ourselves in the process.<\/strong> In intercultural relationships, however, a different reality often emerges quietly and almost unnoticed. Power and powerlessness come into play. Not as drama, but as subtle shifts in everyday life, in language, responsibility, and belonging.<\/p>\n Perhaps you know this feeling that something is left unsaid. That decisions weigh more heavily, dependencies grow, or roles change without you consciously choosing them. Much of this happens not out of malice, but due to circumstances. Migration, cultural influences, bureaucracy, and external expectations all play a role in the background.<\/strong><\/p>\n In this article, I invite you to pause and take a closer look. Not to assign blame or force solutions, but to create awareness. Because connection does not come from repression, but from honesty and courage. When we are willing to acknowledge reality, a space opens up where genuine encounter becomes possible again.<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Inhaltsverzeichnis” _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text admin_label=”Text nach Inhaltsverzeichnis” _builder_version=”4.27.6″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n An essential part of my work in counselling practice is to address things that happen unconsciously. Cultural differences shape us and cannot simply be “erased”. Moving to another country, financial dependencies and a certain degree of “being at the mercy of others” are commonplace in intercultural relationships. This is not pleasant, but it is a reality for most of us.<\/span><\/p>\n Today I would like to give you very specific examples of the dependencies that can arise in intercultural relationships and, above all, give you suggestions on how you can deal with these – perhaps new – insights.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_blurb title=”Power and powerlessness are part of intercultural relationships. What dependencies are you actually aware of?” use_icon=”on” font_icon=”||divi||400″ icon_color=”#3A9E7E” icon_placement=”left” image_icon_width=”190%” content_max_width=”100%” icon_placement_tablet=”left” icon_placement_phone=”top” icon_placement_last_edited=”on|desktop” admin_label=”Sug 1 – Gr\u00fcn\/Blau” _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” header_text_color=”#1A5755″ header_font_size=”20px” background_color=”rgba(58,158,126,0.2)” image_icon_custom_margin=”|||20px|false|false” image_icon_custom_margin_tablet=”|||20px|false|false” image_icon_custom_margin_phone=”|||0px|false|false” image_icon_custom_margin_last_edited=”on|phone” custom_margin=”||||false|false” custom_padding=”20px|30px|16px||false|false” custom_padding_tablet=”|||30px|false|false” custom_padding_phone=”20px|30px|16px|30px|false|false” custom_padding_last_edited=”on|phone” text_orientation_tablet=”left” text_orientation_phone=”center” text_orientation_last_edited=”on|phone” border_color_right=”#3A9E7E” border_width_left=”3px” border_color_left=”#3A9E7E” border_width_right_tablet=”” border_width_right_phone=”3px” border_width_right_last_edited=”on|phone” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_blurb][et_pb_text admin_label=”#Teil-1: New country, new happiness?” module_id=”teil-1″ _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n Perhaps you are about to decide to move to another country or are currently trying to create a new home together. There is often an imbalance as soon as you arrive in a foreign environment: in many cases, the culture shock is underestimated: most of us don’t know exactly what it actually means to leave home. Not only are family, friends and job left behind, but also the entire “old” identity.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_blurb title=”When we move to another country, we are forced to completely reinvent ourselves.” use_icon=”on” font_icon=”||divi||400″ icon_color=”#3A9E7E” icon_placement=”left” image_icon_width=”190%” content_max_width=”100%” icon_placement_tablet=”left” icon_placement_phone=”top” icon_placement_last_edited=”on|desktop” admin_label=”Sug 2 – Gr\u00fcn\/Blau” _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” header_text_color=”#1A5755″ header_font_size=”20px” background_color=”rgba(58,158,126,0.2)” image_icon_custom_margin=”|||20px|false|false” image_icon_custom_margin_tablet=”|||20px|false|false” image_icon_custom_margin_phone=”|||0px|false|false” image_icon_custom_margin_last_edited=”on|phone” custom_margin=”||||false|false” custom_padding=”20px|30px|16px||false|false” custom_padding_tablet=”|||30px|false|false” custom_padding_phone=”20px|30px|16px|30px|false|false” custom_padding_last_edited=”on|phone” text_orientation_tablet=”left” text_orientation_phone=”center” text_orientation_last_edited=”on|phone” border_color_right=”#3A9E7E” border_width_left=”3px” border_color_left=”#3A9E7E” border_width_right_tablet=”” border_width_right_phone=”3px” border_width_right_last_edited=”on|phone” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_blurb][et_pb_text admin_label=”#Text nach Sug 2″ _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n \u200bThere are many reasons for moving – most people expect their living conditions to improve. But when you arrive in the new country, the reality is often very different: apart from a new language and different weather, many people experience a painful loss of skills: suddenly they need help to sort out bureaucratic matters, arrange medical appointments or build up a social network. Frustration and disappointment can spread, self-esteem suffers and there may even be a loss of face: the family of origin may think you “made it”: you are celebrated as a hero in your home country, but in fact you may be sitting at home waiting for a work permit in the new country. Your self-esteem suffers and your own identity is intensely questioned.<\/span><\/p>\n Do you know this feeling or have you noticed something similar in your partner?<\/span><\/p>\n There can be many reasons for saying goodbye to your old life. Even if a move is supposed to make things “better”, saying goodbye is always a loss. Are you aware of this?<\/span><\/p>\n My suggestion: Allow a period of mourning and acknowledge it, even if it is often difficult and exhausting. You may feel completely helpless and overwhelmed because you don’t know how to deal with the situation. You don’t have to deal with it alone! You can get help from outside! Experiences from others and contact with communities can help you to take a little “vacation” from your stress.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_blurb title=”Are there people in your area who are in a similar situation? Dare to share your experiences – you are not alone!” use_icon=”on” font_icon=”||divi||400″ icon_color=”#3A9E7E” icon_placement=”left” image_icon_width=”190%” content_max_width=”100%” icon_placement_tablet=”left” icon_placement_phone=”top” icon_placement_last_edited=”on|desktop” admin_label=”Sug 3 – Gr\u00fcn\/Blau” _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” header_text_color=”#1A5755″ header_font_size=”20px” background_color=”rgba(58,158,126,0.2)” image_icon_custom_margin=”|||20px|false|false” image_icon_custom_margin_tablet=”|||20px|false|false” image_icon_custom_margin_phone=”|||0px|false|false” image_icon_custom_margin_last_edited=”on|phone” custom_margin=”||||false|false” custom_padding=”20px|30px|16px||false|false” custom_padding_tablet=”|||30px|false|false” custom_padding_phone=”20px|30px|16px|30px|false|false” custom_padding_last_edited=”on|phone” text_orientation_tablet=”left” text_orientation_phone=”center” text_orientation_last_edited=”on|phone” border_color_right=”#3A9E7E” border_width_left=”3px” border_color_left=”#3A9E7E” border_width_right_tablet=”” border_width_right_phone=”3px” border_width_right_last_edited=”on|phone” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_blurb][et_pb_text admin_label=”#Teil-2: Distancing yourself from your partner: Where are my personal boundaries?” module_id=”teil-2″ _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n Bureaucratic hurdles are grueling and are often underestimated. They not only lead to involuntary long-distance relationships and financial worries, but also create an enormous imbalance in the partnership.<\/span><\/p>\n We are faced with an ambivalence: we know that we cannot change the system. At the same time, we come up against personal limits when responsibilities can no longer be shared: suddenly one of us has to take on many things because there is simply no other way. For example, if one of us is not allowed to work, the other person automatically takes on the financial responsibility. This means that one person often not only has to take care of the family budget, but perhaps also support families of origin back home, while the partner objectively contributes “nothing” and “just” sits around. The “dependent” partner sometimes feels completely at the mercy of others: a foreign language, a foreign system, conflicts of loyalty to the culture and family of origin, role conflicts, disappointment and frustration.<\/span><\/p>\n Personal limits are quickly or very gradually reached and often exceeded: we usually try to make light of the situation (“Actually, it’s not so bad to take on that “little bit more responsibility” compared to the challenges my partner had to take on in their home country”).<\/span><\/p>\n So: “I see the other person’s challenge and don’t want to burden them with my own problems.”<\/span><\/p>\n It is very important to take a really close look here: Both partners give up. The person who comes has to leave a lot behind and faces a massive identity conflict. The person who stays “at home” takes on many responsibilities and therefore often forgoes personal freedom and a certain ease. In practice, I often find that precisely this part is underestimated and given too little attention.<\/span><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_blurb title=”An intercultural relationship can be very enriching, but is usually also associated with sacrifice and loss. How do you mourn your own personal loss?” use_icon=”on” font_icon=”||divi||400″ icon_color=”#3A9E7E” icon_placement=”left” image_icon_width=”190%” content_max_width=”100%” icon_placement_tablet=”left” icon_placement_phone=”top” icon_placement_last_edited=”on|desktop” admin_label=”Sug 4 – Gr\u00fcn\/Blau” _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” header_text_color=”#1A5755″ header_font_size=”20px” background_color=”rgba(58,158,126,0.2)” image_icon_custom_margin=”|||20px|false|false” image_icon_custom_margin_tablet=”|||20px|false|false” image_icon_custom_margin_phone=”|||0px|false|false” image_icon_custom_margin_last_edited=”on|phone” custom_margin=”||||false|false” custom_padding=”20px|30px|16px||false|false” custom_padding_tablet=”|||30px|false|false” custom_padding_phone=”20px|30px|16px|30px|false|false” custom_padding_last_edited=”on|phone” text_orientation_tablet=”left” text_orientation_phone=”center” text_orientation_last_edited=”on|phone” border_color_right=”#3A9E7E” border_width_left=”3px” border_color_left=”#3A9E7E” border_width_right_tablet=”” border_width_right_phone=”3px” border_width_right_last_edited=”on|phone” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_blurb][et_pb_text admin_label=”#Text nach Sug 4″ _builder_version=”4.27.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\nTable of contents<\/b><\/h2>\n
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New country, new happiness?<\/b><\/h2>\n
Distancing yourself from your partner: Where are my personal boundaries?<\/b><\/h2>\n